Why you hatin'?

HATE. It's not a word or a feeling to be taken lightly. People always say "I hate anchovies" "I hate traffic" or "I hate all the Tyler Perry movies". But to actually hate something, is to have some emotion invested in it. Lately I've become cautious about using this word because it is a word and a feeling that serves no purpose amongst or within us as people. I catch myself saying "man I hate Keeping up with the Kardashians" when I really just find them dull and a little irritable. Or "I hate the Angels" when actually I find it annoying that before 2002, I knew only 3 people who liked them.

Think about Love. When you love someone you're constantly thinking about them. Wishing them well and hoping they are okay. You probably include them in your prayers. Those we love include family, pets, friends, the hot neighbor. When you love something, you cannot have enough of it. Such as clothing, food, sports, beer just to name a few.

Hate is the same emotion and it can be miserable. I can only base it on someone else experience but it was not pretty. All their thoughts and energy went into thinking of ways to make the person they hated life's miserable. When they heard that name, they were insanely irritable after that and were a pain to be around. I felt bad for that person. Not the person that was hated, but the person who hated. Here they are, investing all their thoughts and emotions on trying to cause this person pain or trouble, that this person could not see that they would be better off being concerned about themselves and being happy. The person that he was trying to cause harm to did not even notice that someone had plotted to cause them misery. It was childish in fact. Mind you, this person wasn't plotting Wile E Coyote traps against them, but still.

So the next time you catch yourself saying something like I hate this or that, ask yourself how much does it really affect you. Because even if it is something like waiting at the DMV or waiting at long lines at the supermarket, or that person taking forever at the drive thru, think about how much it really affects you. You'll possibly find that it just irks you because one hour later, you're not thinking about it anymore. You're probably at home with loved ones or watching a movie or exercising and your thoughts are elsewhere doing something you enjoy.